Vickie's Viewpoint

It always fascinates me what we accept as fact, how these “facts” have power over us and why we tolerate them. We never stop to think that all we need to do is change our minds.

The Sizzling Story

The scorching summer heat in Phoenix, AZ can be absolutely miserable. Everywhere you go you hear people complaining and rearranging their whole life around the temperature.

Well several years ago when I moved here from 70-degree, year-round San Diego, Calif., I had to start practicing what I was preaching. I thought about all those years I lived in Denver, Colo. and never thought much about the cold and snow. So why was I letting the heat rule my life now? I made a decision back then to change forever my thoughts about the heat to, “I will not let the weather disturb me in anyway.”

I realized the power of my thoughts and what I had really done on a summer afternoon a couple of weeks later. I caught myself standing in the sun talking to a client for about 20 minutes. When I got in the car and turned on the radio the announcer said the current temperature was 114 degrees. What fascinated me was I never noticed the temperature.
I am sure there are others — landscapers, construction workers, and joggers – here in Phoenix who know the secret to tolerating the heat. I am proud to be one of them.

To find out more about the power of thought contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Most of us forget to trust our “intuition” or “gut instincts” with simple things like finding a boy/girl friend. It usually means the difference between having a difficult relationship that is more stressful than it’s worth or finding a relationship that is pleasant, low-maintenance and amazing.

Whether you’re on your first date or have been dating for some time, one of the easiest ways to detect a great relationship is to pay attention to the flow. Below are some simple ways to know if you’re heading for a difficult, ho-hum or disastrous relationship.

12 Signs Your Date is NOT Perfect for You:

When you…

1    Often play phone tag.

2    Notice your date doesn’t want to know more about you.

3    Observe there is no flow to the conversation. At times you have nothing to say or talk about.

4    Have difficulty getting on the same page, which leads to little misunderstandings.

5    Avoid discussing certain subjects, like having kids. Or you find yourself telling little white lies because you’re afraid of the response.

6    Are concerned about what your date will think of you if you tell the truth and are yourself.

7    Can’t get yourself to bring up certain questions.

8    Have a hard time getting your date to answer your questions.

9    Find your date getting upset when something changes or isn’t flexible.

10 Or your date forgets the details about your next get together.

11 Have an uncomfortable feeling inside when he or she compliments you.

12 Don’t feel good inside anytime during or right after the date.

As a life coach, I’ve noticed if you observe some of these “intuitive” signs, there is no way you can change yourself or your date to make it work. No matter how hard you try, the relationship is what it is. Essentially, you’re not listening to your “intuition” and you are trying to “make do” with someone other than your perfect date. Your perfect date, by the way, is still waiting for you while you’re ignoring your intuition! So keep looking! You will save a lot of headaches and time if you do.

Other related quizzes, articles and blogs by Vickie Champion you might be interested in are:

Quiz-How Often do You Listen to Your Intuition?

All About Being in the Flow

Events Flow Easily When we Listen to Our Intuition

or check out the entire About Intuition section.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

Are you person A? The Avoider? You have a difficult relationship with a client, boss, co-worker, friend, spouse or any other relationship so you spend much of your day on autopilot. You are desperately trying to eliminate all thoughts and dealings with him or her. Out of sight, out of ear-shot, out of mind, you think.

Or are you person B? The Bad Mouther? You spend a lot of your time thinking about what that person said or did, and, in fact, bad mouthing them to anyone who will listen?

Here are Some More Signs we Really Need to Improve a Relationship…

When we…

• Are scared to tell that person the truth.
• Have verbal arguments.
• Find ourselves judging that person and telling others.
• Go over and over in our minds what we need to do about a situation and how that person will react to it.
• Think it’s easier to give in than irritate that person.
• Pay little attention, if any, to how we’re feeling about the situation.
• Say yes to that person when we really want to say no.
• Depend on the relationship to be successful.
• Start taking that person for granted.
• Notice that person is either avoiding or scared of us.

By taking the time to improve our difficult relationships we can become person C, the Choice maker. It’s up to us, we can continue our difficult  relationship with that person or choose instead to improve it and benefit from it.

Other related articles and blogs by Vickie Champion you might be interested in are:

Why we Wouldn’t Want to Improve a Business Relationship

or check out the entire About Life section.

You can also contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.

I have read 100’s of non-fiction books that have helped me, molded my life, and have inspired me. I am always looking for more. Do you have any recommendations?

What is your favorite non-fiction book and briefly describe it?

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It surprises me that so many people want to ignore, deny or sabotage their dreams.

Here are Some Ways to Kill Your Dreams…

• Pretend you don’t know what your dreams are.

• Brainwash yourself into thinking you are not good enough to ever achieve your dreams.

• Keep your habit of impulse buying so you can tell others you don’t have enough money to go for your dreams.

• Wait for the perfect time to start working on your dreams, maybe after the kids are grown, or when you have all the bills paid off.

• Don’t share your dreams with anyone so you can avoid having anyone support or help you achieve your dreams.

• Get busy with pleasing other people, instead.

• Keep your office, home and life full of clutter to hide your imagination.

• Do lots of activities you’ll later feel guilty about.

• Doubt yourself and your abilities a lot.

• Tailor your entire life so you stay in your comfort zone.

• Focus entirely on quick fixes instead of achieving long-term goals.

• Use problems, either yours or others, as your only topic of conversation.

Can you think of other ways to Kill your Dreams?

Others quizzes, articles and blogs you might be interested in are:

Quiz: How Ready are You to Get your Dreams?

12 Benefits of Not Going After your Dream Job

Do You Know What your Dreams Are?

Five Mindsets that Sabotage your Dreams

or check out Vickie’s entire About Life in General section.

You can also Contact Vickie Champion for a complimentary coaching and consulting session.